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Welcome to Stylish mamas' blog! Part 3.

Hello everyone! Welcome to the third part of our blog "who or what is Stylish mamas?" Today I am going to talk about part C) Third time lucky for Matilda and me. This is my last bundle of joy and she's only 18 months old! :)

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C) Third time lucky for Matilda and me?

 

When Matilda was born, I had 32 months of breastfeeding under my belt and felt a bit more experienced and confident before I even started breastfeeding. I was under no illusion that it was going to be easy and I knew that I needed patience and perseverance to succeed. This was not just from me but also from my little ray of sunshine and it's safe to say that my instincts were right!

My pregnancy with Matilda was very challenging and it didn't help that I already had 2 little ones running around. I think this is something that is often overlooked and underestimated how hard it can be. Taking care of small children requires understanding, tolerance, a lot of patience and the ability to laugh at a few things that will make you want to cry (walking into a living room and finding your 3 year old plastering your television with mud...yes that kind of stuff!:) ). Unfortunately when you are pregnant, all those qualities usually wear thin and I did find myself counting to 10 more often than I did before. Let's just say pregnancy hormones are not to be messed with and I say this with a stern face. Fast forward 9 months later, I was ready to welcome my little bundle of joy and after such a difficult pregnancy I thought it could only get better, right?

Well, not quite :). Just like every pregnancy is different so is every child. Matilda was born through an emergency C-section and unlike the first time round, I wasn't worried about my milk coming in. I knew it would and I also knew that the more I "breastfed" her during those initial days, the sooner the milk would come in and the higher our chances of succeeding at breastfeeding.

Experience had taught me this and research also shows that it is important to try and breastfeed your baby during the first hour after birth when their sucking reflex is still at its best to increase the chances of succeeding at breastfeeding. I know it is hard especially because it seems as though your baby is feeding and nothing is coming out. Not true, during your initial days of breastfeeding, your breasts produces colostrum which is a thick, sticky, yellowish fluid sometimes referred to as "liquid gold" and your baby only needs a few teaspoons to feel full and stay healthy until your milk flow increases, which is usually about two to five days after birth. So when you think nothing is coming out, don't stop! Keep going!

Matilda took to breastfeeding like a champ and within a couple of days, we were truly on our way! She latched on so well that within two days my breasts looked like they were ready to explode if she hadn't breastfed for a couple of hours. Initially I was sore (this is expected because your breasts are still getting used to breastfeeding, this doesn't matter if you've breastfed in the past or not. You will always get some sensitivity issues which stops after a week or two) but this soon came to pass and I felt proud of myself that I was doing something right.

However, despite having less trouble with breastfeeding, my body had other plans. I had terrible water retention and a bad reaction to the general anaesthetic I had received. This landed me back in hospital which wasn't pleasant but we kept at it. At times I felt so tired and helpless but I was so lucky to have a very supportive family. They picked me up when I was down, they offered to help when they saw me struggling and most importantly they backed me up 100% with my decision to breastfeed which was all I needed to succeed.

At 18 months, am just weaning her off and I can whole heartedly say it's been a blast! I enjoyed this experience for the third time and feel so blessed to have been able to do it again. Even though Matilda was somewhat fussy when it came to feeding expressed milk from a bottle, I wouldn't change a thing! She hated the bottle and would scream on end until I breastfed her. This became very stressful because I couldn't leave her for more than 2 - 3 hours and we tried all sorts of bottles but nothing worked. In the end we just accepted it and found a way to work around that. I am so glad I persevered.

To some people that was a good enough reason for me to stop breastfeeding and they couldn't understand why I hadn't. The answer is very simple, I had to look at the bigger picture and that it wasn't just about me and what I wanted but about what was more important and best for my child.

Breastfeeding is very hard and comes with all sorts of challenges for every mother. Others can't breastfeed for medical reasons and others it's for personal reasons. No one has the right to judge someone for their decision when it's one they've decided it's in their baby's best interest. I respect every mother’s decision out there and in turn I expect the same. I know breastfeeding can create heated debates and some people lack the knowledge of how beneficial it is to both the mother and child. That is their opinion and I can live with that. However I do not agree with those that think it's ok to verbally abuse breastfeeding mothers especially when in public! At the end of the day, they are only trying to do what is best for their child and if that child is hungry when they are in public they've got every right to breastfeed that baby without receiving snide remarks or unpleasant looks! (I am lucky that I never experienced this because I am not one to take it laying down) How about your rights you ask? You've got every right to look away or walk away if it bothers you that much, it’s that simple.

To all the breastfeeding mothers out there, keep going you are doing a great job! Always remember it does get better and we've all had rough days when we’ve felt so low. Talk to someone, join a breastfeeding support group, meet some friends for a cup of coffee or find a hobby for some "me" time because breastfeeding can make you feel like you've got a baby attached to you 24/7. They soon grow up and one day you will look back with such fond memories at your 1am breastfeeding sessions with your baby nicely snug in your arms and you scoffing on a piece of toast at that hour! (Or maybe that was just me! :))

Till our next and final part of "who or what is Stylish mamas?" have a great weekend!

 

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Just because its a cute photo! :) Me and Matilda ( 17 months old).

 

By: Stylish mamas.

Dated: 19/02/2016

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